In this blog, I wanted to talk about the one difference in people.
What makes someone who is always constantly growing in every area of their life while others are stagnant? What makes one who has a successful business while others are just getting by barely?
The answer is one word, and that word is hunger. What kept Walt Disney going after being turned down by over 300 banks for a loan to build a theme park? How is a 6th round draft choice in the NFL Draft turn out to be one of the great Quarter Backs to have played the game of American football (Tom Brady)? It is because they are hungry, resilient, and willing to do the things that others are not willing to do. They make the necessary sacrifices, while others would just give up.
Great leaders, teachers, and coaches can teach you anything you want to know. What they cannot give you is hunger. A great motivator cannot give you drive, at least not sustainable drive.
Trust me, I know what it is like not to have the drive and not to want it bad enough. I failed in many instances, where I know if I was hungrier, I would have succeeded.
Some people were born with hunger and drive. However, that is not the case in most circumstances. Michael Jordan’s hunger came from being cut from his High School basketball team. Most of us develop that hunger to be successful in any area of their life by saying, “I’ve had enough!” or “That’s it, no more!”. There is always a failure or something that puts us over the edge. As a result, that is why failure is a great thing at times. Times of failure is when we ponder.
Hunger will lead to fulfillment. Hunger will elevate you to get you to the next level in your life.
Here is some ways that you can start to develop a desire, drive, and hunger. Remember though, no one can give you hunger and no one can give you drive.
- What is your why: If we do not have a why, we will not ever come close to starting anything that will improve the quality of our life. We need to visualize what we want to see our future the way we want it to be, or better yet, what we must have it to be. Spend quality time to write down your whys. Once that is completed, review them on a daily basis.
- Get around people who are hungry. It is said that we are the average of five people we spend the most time with according to Jim Rohn. Do not spend time with people who complain and bring you down. Get some hungry friends.
- Create consequences for not meeting your weekly goals. We need to create massive pain to not making the call and not following through. Give money to charity or better yet, donate to a cause that you do not support.
- Change your state. Changing your state can mean changing your focus, changing your language, or changing your physiology. Changing your physiology is the fastest way to change your state. Move your body more rapidly. Speak faster and stronger. Stand up straight. Changing your physiology alone will elevate your confidence level and drive to follow through.
- Get an accountability buddy. This is the most important thing on the list. If you do not do the other four, do this. If you are going to take your life to the next level and sustain your hunger, get an accountability buddy. An accountability buddy can mean hiring a coach or someone to partner with to hold each other accountable. Meet at least one per week to review your goals, wins, accomplishments, and areas that need improvement. Also share what did not go well. Create some consequences with each other as mentioned in step 3. It is important you get someone that cares about you and is looking out for your best interests. Please note though that this person cannot be family, a close friend, or someone you are in a relationship with. This person needs to be outside of that realm that will not have any conflict of interests.